About being in a relationship

I oppose the idea that being in a relationship is better than being single. Let's face it, sharing is caring, but neither sharing nor caring is featured on the list of things-that-humans-are-naturally-keen-to-do. Surprise: we love to be in control. We love to have it all. We love to beat others. As much as we love those, we don't like to be alone.

The other day, I was with two other friends. We debated upon whether being single/in a relationship is better. Better, of course, is such a vague word. We didn't come to an agreement about what better meant, yet we were so into it that we didn't care anymore. Another person and I argued that being single is better. The other two argued the other way saying that being in a relationship is so much better than being single. The grass is always greener on the other side. In reality, we were in the state of what we argued as worse. The other person and I were in a relationship. The two other people were not. So much for self-pity.

The argument for "relationship is better" lies so much on how we have a counterpart to share our happiness and sadness, that being alone is sad-no matter how happy we are-, and that we don't want happiness if we have no one to share with. The argument for "single is better" lies on how we don't have to think about our counterpart's feeling and thoughts, that we are free to choose whatever we want, and being responsible for whatever we end up choosing.

I know that this is such a silly topic. Don't judge me, I'm not a self-centered bitch. I might be more than that. I don't know what I should call myself. I'm annoying, at the very least, but I do believe that what I argued was true. Even until now, when we are not talking about it anymore.

Being in a relationship is not going to make your life any better. If you're looking forward to be in a relationship because it will make your life dandier, with pink and yellow flowers all over your green-green-grass-of heart, think again. I'm telling you now: it won't be. This is what some movies forget to tell you: you won't feel like flying when you are walking even if you are in love. When s/he does things wrong, you will still be upset. When s/he forgets to lift up/put down the toilet seat, you will still roll your eyes.


You know that being in a relationship will not make your life any better, yet you choose to be in it, because you know that as worse as it gets, you're ready to face it with this person, and this person will make it worth-it.

The question is do you dare to love?